How to give the perfect O (You know what that stands for)

By Quinani Gaterson

Getting a woman to have the perfect orgasm is like trying to find that winning fantasy football team. One is out there, but you are going to have to try a lot of different combinations to get it just right. In my years as an image consultant who specializes in helping people unleash their sexy. I have discovered that since the dawn of time men have been trying to figure out how to give women the perfect orgasm. Well, I am about to let you in on a big secret– it begins above the waistline (men I am not referring to our breast, it is higher than that). Getting a woman to have the perfect orgasm has everything to do with stimulating her mind. Gents I realize that statement may not support a man’s belief that size does matter– but this is not about your ego. It is about getting us ladies to the “Oh Zone”. There is such irony when you consider how much a man struggles with how to give a woman an orgasm yet a woman is capable of giving herself an orgasm through sheer thought. Yes, you heard me. Women have the power to think themselves to orgasm. There is even a name for it— Thinking Off. I share that, not to frustrate or intimidate you, it is meant to empower you. To let you know you can put her in an “O” frenzy by following a few tips. First thing you must do is create the proper mood. Make sure you and your partner are comfortable. The correct setting is important. Have a glass of wine with your partner at a time when you are not so anxious to have sex immediately before or after. Let her feel that you are focused on her. You can do this by asking her to explain what are the elements that turn her on and why. Invite her to say what she really enjoys. Ask if there is a particular technique she likes, any fantasies she has ever wanted to engage in, any toys she would like to use. Former adult film actress Luscious Kisses, believes that a man focusing on a woman’s desires before his own is a necessity. “He should pay attention to the woman first,” she stresses.  “Be patient and learn about her mind, then he can have fun learning about her body.” Let her know it’s ok for her to be open minded– you will not be judgmental. After all you want to know what really turns her on. Once you understand your partner’s needs, it is time to actually cater to her desires. Since she has been so honest with you and you were so accepting of her frankness the fear she has of being perfect enough while achieving the big “O” should be eliminated. I know it can be tough to just talk but if you agree to restrain from physical intimacy while sharing fantasies, kinks and whatnot that in itself can be one mind-blowing exploration for her and you.

Speaking of fantasies– let us not forget the attire and we are not talking about hers. “I don’t think there’s nothing wrong with putting on some silk boxers and slipping on some baby oil,” says Luscious Kisses. Try channeling your inner Magic Mike and put on a personal show just for her. “Let your woman sit in a chair and watch you,” she declares.

So men the key to a giving a woman a great orgasm is good communication. By discussing her needs and then exploring ways to achieve them you will both grow deeper in your relationship. After all, if you cannot handle each other’s boudoir needs that may be a sign of more complications in your relationship that need to be explored. However, when you take the time to find happiness between the sheets your world is bound to get a lot more fun.

So now that you have a How to Manual on what to do it is all about perfecting how you engage her desires from here on out.

Samantha von Sperling is an image consultant and relationship expert. Learn more about her services at https://socialimage.net