Nobody likes a Clingy partner. When in a relationship everyone needs their space and time away from their partner to pursue personal hobbies and interests. Couples should support each other, but shouldn’t be entirely dependent on one another.
Every person wants love, attention, and affection from their significant other. However, being Clingy and suffocating the other person will only drive them away. Thus, you should avoid clinginess to preserve your relationship and yourself from a lot of mental stress.
Do Some Introspection. Why exactly are you so attached to your significant other? Saying that you’re Clingy because you love them isn’t a correct answer. You can still love someone without drowning them with affection. Reflect on your motives. Some people are Clingy because they fear loneliness, need validation, think their partner may leave them or are unable to find meaning outside of the relationship.
Expand Your Friendships. Many partners are clingy because they don’t have many other close friends in their life. It’s time to hit up your old friends from school or work and go out and do something. Just as your partner has their friends, you should have yours. Connect with them and spend some time away from your partner for a bit.
Develop Your Interests. Spending time away from your loved one can be a good thing. You can pursue the hobbies that you would never be able to go after otherwise. You may have an interest in things that you didn’t pursue because your partner was constantly around and they didn’t share your interest. However, your alone time (or time with other friends) allows you to enjoy those hobbies in peace.
Give Them Space. If your partner wants some time by themselves, think nothing of it. They still love you just as much, but they also need some time to themselves. Enjoy your time alone. Take a hike in the woods, treat yourself to a nice dinner, read a book, or play video games. There’s plenty of things you can do by yourself.
Build Up Confidence. Clinginess can sometimes come from insecurities. You might seek validation from your partner due to your own perceived flaws. Perhaps you think you’re not pretty, funny, or likable enough, so you turn to your loved one to receive approval. This is an unhealthy strategy. Your partner loves you the way you are, but you need to learn to love yourself. Practice meditation, exercise, and self-reflection. Examine the roots of your insecurity. You and your partner will both be grateful for it.
Let Go Of The Past. Many insecurities come from past relationships. If you’ve been cheated on, you might worry that your partner will do the same. However, be mindful this is a different relationship and a brand-new opportunity to change things. It doesn’t have to be like your previous romance. You have the chance to make things better.
Examine Irrational Thoughts. Do you think your partner might be hooking up with someone else every time they go out? Do you fear they are ignoring you when they don’t reply to your texts? How likely are these situations? Your partner could just be watching a movie or might’ve not responded to your message because they fell asleep. Every time your mind jumps to the worst possible conclusion, take a moment and consider how likely that situation is. Are you being rational or just worrying?
Conclusion. Learning to trust your partner is an essential step in any successful relationship. However, it’s even more important to learn to love yourself. Quit letting your insecurities about your supposed shortcoming dictate how you behave in relationships. It’s not a simple process to get over deep-seated feelings of inadequacy, but it’s worth it. Practice building your self-esteem a little every day. It will pay off in the long run.
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